This #NDEAM, Let’s #Consent to #EndTheTelethon and Dismantle the Charity Model – Again

This post is part of a blog-weekend protesting the re-emergence of the Muscular Dystrophy Association (MDA) Telethon. Sadly, Kevin Hart and MDA are bringing the charity model and Jerry Lewis back like Zombies of Ableism on October 24. We, the Not-Walking-Not-Dead-Yet, have to use our social capital to stop them in their tracks as the Hartless Crips we are.

I’m proud to be one of the disabled activists organized by disabled filmmaker, writer, and activist Dominick Evans to once again protest an event that perpetuates disability stereotypes, spreads misinformation about neuro-muscular diseases to increase donations, and utterly ignores structural ableism. In 2015, I wrote about the end of the Telethon that inexplicably ran every year on Labor Day and was presided over by the guy who claimed his “kids” could never go into the workplace.

This post revisits portions of it with an eye to the continuing issue of employment – if only because disabled children will once again be working at the Telethon for their health care, and potentially taking some very concerning lessons away from that experience about consent and power.  Thank you, Dominick, for your leadership!

Hands-OFF Fundraising in 2020: Consent, Consent, Consent

Telethon screenshot. Lewis has his hand grabbing a young girl's knee. "that we are about to present and it's for her and a million other of my kids"

In 2020, we need to critique this 2010 image from the Muscular Dystrophy Association (MDA) Telethon in terms of consent as much as we do its infantilizing attitude and fundraising tactics that use disabled people as charity props.
MDA needs to be held accountable for their broader transactional narrative in which disabled children are expected to allow strangers to touch their bodies as part of obtaining money for their health care.
The “new” Telethon is being held on Oct. 24, during National Disability Employment Awareness Month (NDEAM). There is a connection between the MDA Telethon and employment. What we learn as children is carried into adulthood. The lesson here  can too easily become, “I need my paycheck so I have to put up with my boss touching me.”
Past KFC/MDA print ad saying, "On May 24th, show this child you care," with an explanation of why buying KFC will help kids. Lewis has his arm wrapped around a small boy in a wheelchair

MDA, Jerry Lewis, KFC, and a bucket of reasons why disabled children shouldn’t be used as props in cause marketing charity campaigns.

BONUS! Go here for “Stuff I Know As a Fundraiser Who Has Muscular Dystrophy and Why It’s (Past) Time for MDA to #EndTheTelethon”

BUT WAIT – WE’VE GOT EVEN MORE BONUS! Go here to read why Girls Scouts are better fundraisers than MDA’s executives

Updated from 2015’s “This Labor Day, Let’s Commit to Wiping Out the Charity Model for All People With Disabilities in Our Lifetime”

The Labor Day weekend had me feeling celebratory because there was no Muscular Dystrophy Association (MDA) Telethon on the air for the first time in 49 years.

I’ve said it before and it’s still true: “How we raise money says a lot about our attitudes toward the cause we want to fund.”

When I first published article (below) in 2005, I was aware of Laura Hershey’s and Harriet McBryde Johnson’s Telethon protests; finding these two other mouthy women who had muscular dystrophy galvanized me to mouth off, too.  In 2010, I threw my first MDA Telethon Viewing Party Bash: I’ll Never Watch Alone and the second was in 2014.

I’ll Trade You the Pink-Ribbon Teddy Bear for Jerry Lewis Any Day (From Bay Area Business Women’s News, November 2005)

Every family has its stories. In my family, many of them end with The Debunking of the Experts. A classic one is about the first specialist the pediatrician referred my parents to when I wasn’t crawling. “She will never walk!” he is said to have declared. Say what you will about fearing the unknown; my parents were buffeted around by so much medical certainty, it’s amazing they didn’t develop whiplash.

Long story short, I did walk, and I went to school, even though a misdiagnosis required my parents to find proof I was educable. Later, I defied other odds and went to work. My family never expected anything else. That was fortunate, because if I lacked stereotypes that hold many girls and women with disabilities back, I also lacked role models.

No one else in my family is visibly disabled and I was mainstreamed after a “special” pre-school/kindergarten. I have almost always been the only “out” disabled person in my workplace. Once I tried to downplay the disability but now I question why I’m so often the one “special needs” employee: the woman with muscular dystrophy.

Last Labor Day was the 40th Jerry Lewis Telethon for Muscular Dystrophy. It was tough to watch mostly because of the cognitive dissonance of seeing people who are ostensibly like myself, yet not. Not because they’re more disabled but because they’re portrayed as wretched/heroic. So not me.

I’ve contacted friends and colleagues for the past two years, asking them to send emails of protest to the Muscular Dystrophy Association (MDA). I do it because I’m employed and too few women with disabilities are, a situation caused in part by the stereotypes the Telethon perpetuates.

Barbara Ehrenreich complained, quite rightly, about the infantilizing treatment she received after being diagnosed with breast cancer. MDA may think it has sidestepped that issue by using actual children in the Telethon. It’s hard to complain that Lewis is treating kids like children. But I’m pretty sure no one ever told Ehrenreich that she was half of a person because she had breast cancer. That’s what Lewis said on CBS Morning Show in 1999: Having muscular dystrophy makes you “half a person.”

Photo of Jerry Lewis with his infamous quote about how muscular dystrophy would make him half a person.

Whenever I think about that, I want to say to Ehrenreich, “I’ll trade you the pink-ribbon teddy bear for Jerry Lewis any day.”

Minutes after I tuned in this year, a little girl was profiled in a video montage before she and her parents joined the host on stage. She sat listening quietly as her parents talked about how their little girl didn’t have a future.

Unlike “normal” children, she was “confined” to a wheelchair and could be “struck down” at any moment. You couldn’t see how these dramatic statements affected her because a “Call Now” graphic covered the lower portion of the screen — right where her face was, and where the face of any person who uses a wheelchair would be expected to be.

Here’s the thing: Little girls who hear they don’t have futures become women who don’t have jobs. And people will never care that women with disabilities are excluded

from their work places if they think of us as faceless bodies with special needs instead of women with equal rights.

Ironically, the MDA Telethon is held annually over the Labor Day weekend, yet is presided over by Jerry Lewis who declared on air, “My kids cannot go into the workplace.” In an interview on CBS Sunday Morning, Lewis was not apologetic about using stereotypes, or his contempt for people with muscular dystrophy who object to being demeaned in this way: “If it’s pity, we’ll get some money. Pity? You don’t want to be pitied because you’re a cripple in a wheelchair? Stay in your house!”

An older Jerry Lewis and his quote about how pity raises money and disabled people should stay in their house if they don't like it.

Lewis’ use of the word “kids” as in “kids in the workplace” and “Jerry’s kids” show how persistent — and unquestioned — stereotypes often are. We know Lewis isn’t saying kids should work. He meant “adults.” Who he feels entitled to refer to as children, which is excused because he “means well.” Many women couldn’t care less that a man can “mean well” when he calls a woman a “girl.” Or “sweetie.”

If I don’t put up with sexist behavior in order to get a paycheck, why would I excuse another kind of discrimination because it’s connected to a donation? I can’t imagine Equal Rights Advocates, where I work, promoting a spokesman at our annual luncheon who said, “My girls cannot go into the workplace.”

According to the Center for Research on Women With Disabilities at Baylor College of Medicine, 26 percent of women with disabilities live below the poverty line, as compared with 10 percent of women without disabilities; and 31 percent of women with disabilities are employed full-time, as compared with 69 percent of those without disabilities.

These numbers show the effects of the stereotyping and discrimination to which women with disabilities have been subjected for too long. That brings us back to the “question” about girls with disabilities and their futures. Are those futures going to be better than these grim numbers predict they will be?

2 thoughts on “This #NDEAM, Let’s #Consent to #EndTheTelethon and Dismantle the Charity Model – Again

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  2. Pingback: A Crip in Philanthropy: Stuff I Know As a Fundraiser Who Has Muscular Dystrophy and Why It’s (Past) Time for MDA to #EndTheTelethon | Disabled In Development

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